He (a WAS) is possibly basing his experience on PAST behaviour.
Change yourself = new behaviour and possibly new reaction
IF
He NOTICES...
Therefore, as I interpret MWD and some situations of infidelity where LBS distance may have been the root... a different behaviour by the LBS might create a different reaction from the WAS...
So... GET HIS ATTENTION... which might be through POSITIVE contact (negative contact SHOULD be PAST behaviour).
Problem is... that MIGHT be MWD's "soft" approach or recommended by a coach... and then it's reported on this forum and immediately called "pursuit"...
IT IS NOT (IMHO) pursuit...
It is SIMPLY getting the WAS's attention in positive ways...
And then...
back off a touch...
see if it results in pursuit by the WAS...
I am defining "pursuit" as MWD defines it (not how the forum does), in the context of her "Afer the Last Resort" technique.
Which, I would think, would be where KG should be after 20 months of a continuing, open, unrepentant affair.
