I know these are hard questions. They're SUPPOSED to be, and the answers I'm trying to elicit are for YOU, not for me (or anyone else). Just trying to get you to think about this from an outside perspective, because usually when we're so caught up in the middle of our sitches, we can't always see it clearly.
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For them to be raised in a family that acts from love, not fear.
In my experience, people in your situation are usually more afraid of letting go than they are of continuing to fight for the marriage. Are you sure that you're not operating out of fear now? It's no shame to admit that -- most of us do operate out of the very powerful "fear of loss" more than almost anything else.
I do respect your strong willingness to fight for your marriage and your family. I just want to challenge you to put SOME sort of an end-date on it, for your own emotional health and that of your kids.
