I should say, I wouldn't advise anyone to walk away in the initial months or even year of hearing "i don't love you, never did, don't want to be with you." That's script.

But I've been hearing it through 14 months of really good DBing and IC, with not a glimmer of second thoughts. After a very long time I think standing becomes denial of reality. My H divorced me emotionally a very long time ago and I've done all I could do with no effect.

If H goes ahead and processes this divorce and continues to be emotionally unavailable, I don't want this marriage anymore and I'll move along.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.