As for the apologizing thing....I feel the same way that I can't continue to apologize for the same things over and over, its in the past we have to move one. With that being said i've never heard anything like the 999 times thing and its somewhat eye opening to me. My advice is this, and its for me and for you....when you apologize make it specific...not a general im sorry for not treating you the way you should have been treated....but as much as you can remember apologize for the specific events. And secondly write it down...on paper or in an email and send it to her so that she can read it as often as she needs to hear it.
Yeah, that's kinda what I'm doing. I think I said the blanket sorry over and over before saying enough is enough. I'm now trying to be specific....I've got 5-6 more things that I am truly sorry for. On one hand, I feel like I'm just owning up to my mistakes, and I'm ok doing that. But once I've gone thru my list, I will ask for forgiveness and stop apologizing for history. For now though, it seems to be having a positive effect on her, so I'll continue.
W did say she'd go with me to the Forgiveness retrov pitch in a couple of weeks, so I'm pretty happy about that. There's a 20 question quiz that is supposed to help determine the primary ways you forgive and I think that'll help us both.
