Val, making the decision and following through is freeing. At least it is taking the step that has been looming for so long.
Be cautious, read and understand everything you’re agreeing to. I have known people that have damaged themselves rushing to get to the other side. It is the business aspects I am speaking of. I know the feelings around “irreconcilable differences” and I agree, but this is not a reason I could use to mitigate the decision to proceed.
A scouting report from the other side must include that the grass is not greener, but it is my grass. I alone am responsible for maintaining and enjoying it. There is some cycling, but again that cycling is mine to control, always was.
My experiences, others on this site and on the alt indicate the Xs never really leave completely. At least we are more in control of our interactions with them and those interactions have more to do with how interlaced our lives were. YMMV. My mileage? Well she is Grandma.
A couple of friends have reported and I can confirm that we eventually get to a point where watching our X spew develops a soap opera like quality.
You have come far and grown much in adversity. It is a testament to your character. I know you’ll gracefully navigate your path on Saturday. Never the less I will be thinking and praying for you this weekend.
You are wise to surround yourself with friends and activities. Be present with them and draw strength from the distractions offered by your GAL activities.
((((Val))))
Just want to point out. Sometimes the "grass is greener" on the other side, because you got yourself onto the wrong side.
