Your not going to like what I say but if you are so afraid to talk to him any thing deep, or about feelings your and his, can you really call what you have a relationship.
He's not alone in this, your there too, so why does he rule you with fear of losing him?
As long as he is there you should be happy? He doesn't want you to question anything just accept him that's he in for the long haul.
I'm glad that you want to sit down and talk to him, to get some clarity about your life.