Alkaline: Sound like your doing a good job to me. Its incredibly hard to stop your thoughts, Im not sure when that part gets easier, but to me its much more important early on to be able to stop your actions and that you've already done. Flirting via text is a tough one....if your getting nothing in return then I would say that she's probably not disliking it, but at the same time by doing so your able to fulfill a need for her and she's not even acknowledging it so it is a bit like cake eating I think. Its a tough spot your in b/c she wants to put it on you as though you didnt fight for her, but at the same time you can turn that the other way and tell her that your right where you've always been and that the door is open.
Like you I haven't spoken to my W in almost......crap I can't remember to be honest with you the last time we spoke words....I think it was last Tuesday but im not sure. I know we texted a bit on Friday but I "think" the last voice contact was on Tuesday. Anyway...mine too always says talk to you soon, or see you soon or something similar when we part, but its more an expression than a plan I think.
But as far as it relates to not pursuing, and her trying to not take responsibility by saying you didnt "fight for her" i'd say the same thing in relation to talking on the phone/texting as I said above about the leaving thing....if she ever brings it up again you can tell her that your "fighting for her" right now by working to improve yourself and in the process your marriage, but dont give her specifics.....and the phone/text thing....assuming she ever mentions again that you don't initiate contact just tell her that obviously by leaving S FL to go to C fl she needed some space and you wanted/are still wanting to give her that space but at your always avaialable. If she wants to call you that you'd love to hear from her, but at least for now your giving her the space she asked for.
I dont know if she specifically asked you for space, but by moving she certainly implied she wanted it and your simply giving her that.
