My relationships with them have changed already. Although we are friend I always felt as though I wasn't an important piece of the group dynamic. Since all of this I'm learning that I was and am more important to them than being my H's wife and my S's mom. I'm realizing that I was projecting how I felt about myself on to them. I starting to feel differently about me and therefore them too.
As for the email, I'm hoping to do as little damage as possible to our current relationship (me & H). It's hard to know what will happen or what will hurt the least. I don't know if I'll hear back from him.
I also hope this will motivate him to speak to them himself (the 2 women). I think it would be better for them to hear from him. I didn't and wouldn't throw him under the bus, I owned my crap, but he wouldn't see it that way.
When this first came out for me, he had drafted an email to all of our friend in preparation for the backlash he would receive. That didn't happen and we've all been in this weird state of limbo for about 7 months now. I want him to be able maintain his friendships with all these people (excluding the OW and obviously her H will have nothing to do with my H).
lillystillinlove M:43 H:49 T:17 M:16 S:6 Bomb: 1/27/12 EA+ with close married family friend / ILYBINILWY H moved out 7/27/12 H is Extremely angry, stressed and unable to forgive
