14 Months Secret Separation: talking mediation

[ces67]

Hey Ad,

I think the "waiting" part is a sign of still holding on. You're doing so many good things to move on with your life. The meet-up groups, the swimming, looking at your self to improve...These are all great examples of you actually moving on with life.

So what do you think you're waiting for? Are you making your H do all the work for the D since its what he wants and not you? Are you waiting to see if he changes his mind and recommits to your M? Are you managing your time to prepare a new life strategy for yourself as a single mom? I don't see anything really wrong with any of these, especially since you are doing so good at moving on with your own interests.

It was probably 18 or 19 months before my W and I started touching each other again. Its still on a limited basis but its better than before. Each of us have our own internal clock on these sitch's.

You're doing so many great things for yourself and your boys. And it ultimately comes back to the info we had when this started. We can do all the right things and our WAS may still decide to leave. But you're better than you were before regardless of their choices.

((Ad))