I had a long talk with my girls tonight about how life is with their Dad at his place with his girlfriend.
Guys this woman makes absolutely NO EFFORT in trying to connect with my kids. She just ignores them all the time, even infront of other people.She doesn't even speak to them anymore. She focuses on my XH, any company that's there, but completely ignores my girls. This has been going on for 8-9 months.
Of course due to this, my girls don't even speak to her or try to connect either. They know they're not wanted! XH always invites her on an outting with him and the girls and OW has only said yes 2 times now in the last 9 months. She seems to always find an excuse NOT TO GO. I guess she's avoiding my kids?
I think XH is aware this is not good, but instead of trying to talk to anyone about it he's trying to manipulate the situation into working, by pressuring everyone into being together, when obviously OW doesn't want to, nor my kids either. Guess he thinks if they spend more close time together eventually the connection would start... uh I don't think so. This woman is 7 years his senior (pushing 50) has 5 kids and 6 grandchildren. You would think she'd have some idea in how to bond with kids. She will even make it a point to talk to the girls cousin infront of the girls, but not even speak to my girls.
Because she ignores the kids, and hasn't made any effort, focuses on Xh but ignores his kids, my girls are very uncomfortable there and dread the visits because of this. Yet XH still just lets this go on. He picks up his OW from work with the kids and she doesn't even say hello to them. He takes them all shopping, she ignores the girls and makes comments that are semi rude. When kids and DAd play games together, OW comes in and watches, but focuses and only comments to Xh about what he's doing, and doesn't even acknowledge the girls.
Aside from Xh getting moody at times, he takes complete care of the girls when he's there. He cooks for them, entertains them, and tucks them in bed, hugs and kisses. She does nothing. Doesn't say goodnight, or goodmorning, doesn't try to get to know them, NADA.
THIS BOTHERS ME. Seriously, if my future BF ever treated my kids like that he would be long gone. My kids aren't over there being bratts or being rude to her or anything, they just keep to themselves and stick to their Daddy.
Im sorry I just don't get it. If you love the person you're with, you work on that relationship with their kids. You just do. I can't imagine not even wanting to establish a friendship with your mate's children.
Now I hear she's pressuring XH into getting a house! looks like she's got an agenda.
