Sorry that I'm just catching up on your thread now OZ. Been swamped with work and a little stuck in my own head.
I completely get everything that you are saying. I've been having friends take me out as well. It's nice to shake the dust off.. but after a few times.. I've learned that I'm just not ready.
I made a silent promise to my w and myself that I would not dishonor our vows and would keep every promise until the end.
.. as I grow closer to signing the D - papers.. I am SOO glad I did.
Don't think of moving on = dating others. I am learning that being someone's wife was only a small sliver of who I was. I have so much to offer besides that. I have so many people to love.. and so many more to let love me.
So move forward with the rest of your life.. and know that your heart will heal at it's own pace.. and when it's ready to move on and just into another relationship.. it will.
We do not know of our future but if we have learned anything through this he!! is that if we truly do the work and put our best foot forward - good things WILL come our way.
Be open to that - don't let the fact that your good things may not be exactly what you imagined.. stop you from appreciating them.
Live life fully. Love others fully. And leave the rest up to God.
Keep on keeping on!
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
