Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

Hey all,

I'm starting to really stress out. If someone could provide some advice. If you've read my last post you'll understand the dilemma but I'll restate.

I'm and going to see a couple of friends, these two women are very close friends of mine, my H, the OW and her H. Well the OW's H decided he was going to join the 3 of us girls. I found out a day or 2 ago.

The biggest problem I have is what do I say to my H? Do I tell him, be upfront, total transparency or do is it none of his business and let him find out and feel betrayed yet again?

The reason this is an issue is because, although my H is pretty sure they know what happened he does not have confirmation. The fact the the OW's H is going to be there will confirm that they know. If he finds out after the fact it'll be worse because he will have assumed that I knew and that will be bad. Either way he is going to be hurt.

I think I'm answering my own question. I think if I email him and tell him now he will have time to process it before any damage that may be done.

Does anyone have any thoughts?

The other issue I have is moot. I've decided to not engage in discussion about the sitch with anyone especially the OW's H. I really was hoping for a stress free weekend and I'm going to fight like a wildcat to keep it that way.