second time newcomer, back for more

[badcompany]

Hoping my answers weren't crappy. Really tried to answer honestly

[NASCARDaddy]

Not crappy answers. Pretty good answers actually.

[badcompany]

Quiet couple of days. had to work. Made an appt. for myself to talk with our therapist tonight. Went out to dinner with my wife and kids today. Wife was pointing out houses for sale in the realtor magazine.

Still no kissing or 'I love you' s but talking about going places and even moving.

Just been acting as if and living life without chasing her.

[badcompany]

Question in regards to the therapist. Should I tell him I was snooping in her text messages ? He may ask why I haven't tried kissing her, and the reason I haven't is because of that text to her friend saying 'he hasn't tried kissing me, not that I want him to'

[NASCARDaddy]

That is up to you whether you tell him or not, but I would advise you to stop snooping. It is only going to make things harder on you if you do. I would refer you back to the 37 Rules.

10. Do not spy on spouse by checking emails, phone bills, etc. (Not good for you and will make matters worse.)

[NASCARDaddy]

You can read the whole 37 Rules here

[badcompany]

Poop. Been dropping the ball on #11

Told her I loved her today. First time in a week.

[NASCARDaddy]

Well don't beat yourself up over it too much. This is a learning process and everyone makes mistakes. Just use this as an opportunity to grow.

[badcompany]

Keep thinking about this over and over (bad idea)

Like, did I miss something she said or did ? Did I overlook something ? Was I not good enough ?

[NASCARDaddy]

Negative self talk like that is not helpful. Yes you probably did miss something along the way, but there is nothing you can do about it now. So don't beat yourself up over the past, just focus on what you can do to make the future better.