Also, decided to go dark after the events of last night. Not for DB purposes, but so I can focus on myself. I have received a lot of great advice, a ton of encouragement, many reality checks, and even some frightening conclusions of what my W may or may not be up to. (EA possible, PA maybe but really don't think so. The issue is her and I quite simply).
The issue is that she does not find you attractive and has found another man to fill her needs.
The sooner you can accept that brutal reality, the sooner you can become attractive again.
Loose those pink coloured shades and face the reality.
An attractive and confident man will not share his wife with another man.
She has chosen that.
You cannot fight her feelings with yours.
Let her go and lead your remaining family.
That is manly and attractive.
OM is the predator and your wife is a liar.
Raise above that and show respect and honour.
"W, I have been thinking about this and I agree with you. This is no longer working for me either. You have chosen to leave me so I respect your wishes. I did not wish this but your actions have spoken. I will make arrangements to move on with my life. I will not allow myself or my family to be disrespected this way anymore. From now on the only communication I want between us is about the children. For anything else there are attorneys."
