I have always wanted 7+7. I would accept alternating 4+3. My youngest is still nursing and very much dependent on W. I know that there are options (pumping, formula, etc). Even though I've seen the worst of her lately, she is and always has been a great mother.
Her actions do not = great mother. There is no option to choosing to be a father. You need to get them locked into daycare and school that is in range of where you live. Get some commitment here. If they move 100 miles. Your going to lose them if she gets her every other weekend system in place.
Originally Posted By: Faithnomore
I will be without a place to live come Sept 1. I have reserved a place beginning Oct 1. Until then my belongings will be stored and I will stay with friends. So custody becomes problematic for the month of Sept. The other issue I have is I am required to be on 24 hr call for my job 2-3 nights a week, it rotates, it varies, and there are emergency situations I get called in for even when not on call. I haven't figured out a schedule that gives me what I want (50//50), yet doesn't jeopardize my employment. There may be a solution, I just haven't been able to come up with one. Realistically, it would be very difficult for me to have my kids every other week, yet it's what I desire.
It would be great to think we could do a 7+7, and have W willing to swap days I have call, but I don't see a way to make it work without constant shuttling back and forth of the kids. Even I find that scenaro difficult to accept.
I'm not real sure what to do yet. I am gathering information, seeking advice, and praying about it. Ultimately, I want what's best for my children.
You need to be upfront at work about your concerns when you have your children. Do you not have any family you can fall back on ?
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