That being said, it takes time for people exiting an affair to begin to sort out their emotions and come to a place of clarity and wisdom to grow and mature into a person who can genuninely apologize for hurting their spous eand family.
That particularly hit a spot with me.
Took my H a whole year,even though he had apologized for what had happened, before he woke up one morning, and out of the blue told me what a complete idiot he had acted and how he couldn't believe how clouded and wrong his judgement had been, REGARDLESS of the problems in our M when his A took place. The A didn't help anything, it just made it all so much worse. It made me feel so good to hear that.
We had already by then.....well from early on when the A to light, owned both our own parts in the problems in the M.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
