Let me get this straight. Your W initially said that she didn't want to to see her own D and now she's not only coming around, but now she's asking for D8 to stay over with her every now and then with an OM without being D?
W never said that she didn't want to see D8. She always left it up to me as to who D8 would be with. She always said that if I wanted to leave the country and have my freedom, she would take care of D8 but if I wanted D8 with me ( here or in my own country) it was Ok with her. W doesn't live with other man but in a "female only" boarding house.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Now is the time to draw the line. You are her father. You have a say in how she is raised. Not just your W. If you see something inappropriate, start putting your foot down. Find out what your legal rights are now before your W does.
As I said before, in this country, I have no legal rights. In the event of a Divorce, W automatically gets full custody, if she chooses.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
The OM IS a scumbag who will tell your W whatever she wants to hear to get in her pants. That's why she's gravitating towards him. Of course you could play that game, but it's up to you.
I don't disagree but I also believe that W is going through MLC and that she is not at all herself right now. I haven't yet read DR (I will pick it up at my friend's tomorrow as it just arrived today)and I don't want to make the situation worse at this point.
I feel like you see me as a doormat right now, and frankly, I also at times feel like one but I still believe that I can save this if I play my cards right. I believe DBing might work and that is why, until I have read the book, I need to keep things as good as possible and not push her further away. OM will eventually lose his attraction, I know he will and then, I might have a chance at getting things to move forward positively with W. But, as everyone says around here, I have to be patient, and I'm being patient.
D8 is now only with me because W "allows" it to be this way. I can't be making waves right now.
At this point, I'm convinced that if I gave W an ultimatum, she would file for divorce right away.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
