W threw in some last minute paperwork. To be honest - it upset me a little. She's been wanting this for months and she had to spring this on me NOW..
but I let it go. My w was always a procrastinator.
The document is a property agreement which stated how we are splitting our property due to irreconcilable differences.
I won't lie. The terminology bothers me. I know it shouldn't it.. but by saying it that way - it's saying that I agree...
.. and I just don't. I don't think our marriage is unfixable.
But I guess it is.. when the other person doesn't want to fix it.
For me - it just feels I'm admitting that I agree and it lets her off the hook.
I went off on my friend about other reasons. Tears flowing from my cheeks
How about divorcing because: 1 - W was unfaithful 2 - W chose to stop loving me 3 - W emotionally abused me
What about the reasons why I want to move on. Why do I always keep my mouth shut and be the bigger person.
And this is what she wrote. I thought I would share.
-------------- Val, being upset about wording is not what you're upset about you're upset bc you think it makes her not have to own up to what she did to you that by saying ID she doesnt have to admit and apologize and you are correct.
bc if she or any person filing for divorce did that...they prob wouldn't be getting a divorce theyd be working it out
unfortunately honey, you are probably NEVER going to hear that from her. Hardly any of us do. But you move on and you do what you can to change yourself and protect yourself in the future and you look for better
It's hard...TRUST ME I understand wanting closure and someone to acknowledge how they hurt you but you have to move on without it and if they ever do years down the road its an added bonus
Rest in who YOU ARE today. REST IN the fact that you are loved beyond measure by YOUR heavenly FATHER. Rest in the fact that you have AMAZING friends who would do anything for you and an AMAZING family who loves you and would move across the country to be WITH YOU
THOSE ARE THE FACTS OF LIFE YOU SHOULD BE FOCUSED ON
NOT what some stupid words on a declaration of independence say It IS your declaration of independence your independence from an abusive relationship independence from always being told you don't look good independence from the lack of LOVE and respect you deserved for years
IT'S YOUR INDEPENDENCE to be FREE to be the AMAZING Val you've become over the past year!!!! Without the added stress of a virus in your life like she's been..trying to ruin and take down who you TRULY ARE
You are FREE my friend
I LOVE YOU and am SO PROUD of you
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Yeah.. my friend is pretty awesome.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
