Linda--Thanks so much for your input. Yes, I have that book on recommendation by Meredith. The funny thing about that book is that it really isn't a fix it book (we both were pissed off about that).
I was reminded in my counseling session that a true PA man will be that way in all his relationships. Mr. W. is not. And his PA tendencies have lessened considerably since I stopped the crazymaking. (I can thank Trish for helping here.)
A lie detector test? That's awful. But I'm glad you passed. You're a bigger person than your H gives you credit for.
I hope you had a good time in FL despite the temps?
Oddly enough, I had to break my rule of not calling. It didn't make me very happy... but the golf pro who handles our charity tournament screwed up. He said he would make us a drop dead deal if we agreed to move the time up to 8 am (instead of 1 pm). I told him I would talk it over with Mr. Wonderful...
He picked up after the first ring and sounded down. Actually then he sounded downright fearful--maybe that I would discuss last night while he was at work? Don't know, because I started with, "Houston, we have a problem at the golf course." I told him the deal and told him that I had not told Ray yes or no but would leave the decision to him since it will ultimately require him being out there at 5 am to do the setup.
He hasn't called me back with the decision either. And we're not going to have the moving topic up for discussion while either one of us are working. Though I am embarrassed to say that I have not accomplished ONE thing on my list at work today.
So look out for my new thread. You'll know when you see it!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
