Oh, I'm a real gem alright... Maybe a diamond in the rough???
It sounds like you are experiencing something else similar to me. It seems lately I have stepped outside of how H's MLC affects me and our M, and see how it is affecting his life in general. They are so self destructive, and can't see it.
I was talking with a good friend about my H and OW. She knows both, works with them. I told her that besides losing me (which who knows how he currently would feel about that) and his family, if they were discovered at work he could lose his good reputation, respect of his peers, friendships, and possibly even his job. I'm not certain this has even crossed his mind.
You have given your H some good advice and tried to steer him on the right path. Ultimately though, he will make his own decisions, no matter how bad they are.
This is where I feel much compassion for my H. To be a human tornado and create such destruction in your life without even realizing it would be horrible. And then to one day wake up to all the damage you caused... Horrific.
Keep up the good work Gal. You are growing more each day.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
