I can certainly see your point, and that is why I haven't filed myself
I spoke with an attorney today, and he said if your kids and the time you spend with them is the most important thing. He advised me to file, so there is something enforceable in place. On the other hand I agree that the odds of reconciling diminishes significantly if I take that step. It's why I find myself here in limbo feeling somewhat helpless. I guess when push comes to shove I'm having a hard time figuring out what's better : ensuring equal time with my kids at the expense of saving my M, or sacrificing my time with my kids (for now) for a better chance at saving things.
