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Faith, you absolutely need to protect your rights. However, I would also remind you to remember what your focus is. I believe that you said that you don't want a divorce, so examine every action that you take from the perspective of does this advance or block my goal of having a good R with my wife. Definitely push for 7x7 but have a back up offer if that doesn't work. If she won't take 7x7 then offer her alternating 4x3. The number one thing that my attorney told me when I was first served is that that if reconciliation is really your goal then the last thing you want to do is "poison the well" by creating more contention in your R than already exists.