Your husband, like most spoken of here, is very likely depressed. Can you get your hands on a copy of Depression Fallout by Anne Sheffield. It can help you navigate the choppy waters of his depression and is very much in line with DB. I really think it would be a good resource for you.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011