Yesterday after our phone conversation W came to work because she needed to talk. I said it was ok because was concerned about how everything was turning. I, also, needed some closure to questions I had.
W started by saying that she could not believe I did not believe her when she told me her side of the story about the argument she had with her S24. I said that she just did not wanted to hear anything and did not let me finish my phrase and just hanged up on me. She said that he was yelling and screaming at her and that he kicked her and my SS13 out the house and that I had agreed for him to do that to them. She said that her S24 and I had that conversation on Friday, and supposedely we agreed that I was going to live with them and help them pay for the rent, but that her mom was not allowed in the house. I said to W that we did had a conversation and said that I was going to pay for next coming rent, and that S24 and his W had the rest of the month to find a place to move out. I said to W that I was paying the extra month because I needed the time to relocate my dogs, the car (fixer upper) and also to give her the time to get her stuff. She was still upset and again told me I was not her side, I just stood quiet. She said that since I was not answering that I was agreeing with her son. I said, that I have told her before that I did not want to say anything that would trigger more problems between us. I said to her that even though I did not agree with the way her son talks to her, that it was something they both needed to work and fix. She understood, and said that it was only little things that she wanted.
From there I said to W that I was concerned about how everthing was developing since last thursday when she did not come back home. She said that since she knew how I was going to react, she did not do anything to stop it. I said that we were supposed to be working in our R and that it would have been good if she would have done things differently. I asked straight out if she was with OM, she said no, but if what I wanted to hear was that she does not want to be with me that it was it. I ask her if she her to be honest and tell me if she has had any contact with OM. She said yes, and at the same moment her phone rang, it was OM. She answered the phone and said to him that she was with me talking at a park, and that she would call him later. I raised my voice and said to him that indeed she was with me when she was making promises of love to him. I totally lost my self respect on that. She got upset and asked me to take her back to her truck.
On the way back I told her that I was concerned about her safety, physically and emotionally and also because of SS13. I said that my concern was that OM drinks, uses drugs and has already been violent to her at an early stage of their R. She said that he drinks but he is not a drug addict. My reply was that it was a conversation we would not agree on, but that it was her the one who told me about him using drugs and that it would be very difficult for her to convince me other wise. She stood quiet, and I continue saying that my concern also extended to my SS13. I said to her that it was not a safe place for SS13 to be at OM house. She said that she did not understood why I believed she was already living at OM house and that she was always at OM place all the time. She got me thinking, that is what I choose to believe, and she does not wants to go thru the trouble of making me believe otherwise. I believe that because of all the situations we went thru. She said "ok, the truth is I spent the thursday and all the weekend with OM. There, you already know". I said that it was ok, that her decisions are for her to make.
She then asked me if I had the title to the truck she was driving in the office and I said yes. I asked her if she had the title to the car I was driving and she said yes. I been thinking for quite a while that since she is already with somebody else, that that somebody else needed to provide for her. I would not hesitate to leave anything for her, if she was on her own. I got inside the office and took an empty envelope, and when I returned to the parking lot she gave me the title to the car. I said to her that I was not going to give her any of the vehicles and that she needed to call somebody to come pick her up. She was in shock, her face was pale and could not say anything. After a while she started crying and calling me all sorts of names and making threats, I responded that she needed to leave or I would call the police. She said she was going to call OM and that I was in big trouble, I just said that I was not afraid of him and that if he would come to my work place he would have to face charges with the police. She grabed her phone and supposedly she call him, she was saying that I had taken everything for her and that she needed him to come to my workplace. I again said to her that if that was the case I would call the police and press charges on both of them. She put her phone on her purse and said, "ok, he is not coming, I did not call him" She was more calmed and said she was not with him, and that thursday all of her female cousings went out and they came back to her moms place and that she spent the night there because they did not let her drive. She also told me that she spent all weekend at her mom's place and that if I did not believe her to call her mom. I did, I dialed her mom's number and she picked up. I said that I had taken the truck from W, but the line cut off. W called her mom from her phone and said that I had taken the truck from her, she was on speakerphon. Her mom said that why did I do that because the truck was hers. I said, that I felt that since her daughter was with somebody else, I believed that OM should be providing for her. That everything we made as a couple was the fruit of our relationship, and since she was the one walking out, she needed to rely on the support of OM. Her mom said that she agreed with me and ask her why she was making me believe she was with OM. Her mom finished by saying that W spent all weekend with her since thursday. I soften a bit after hearing her mom, and ask her why she was going trhu all the hassle of lying, that the truth hurts, but that at least it gives respect to both people. I also said that by lying we both lost the respect for each other and that because of that we were on the situation we were in at the moment. She was crying but said yes with her head.
She again told me that she was not with OM, but that he has been contacting her. I said that it was her problem, and if she wanted to continue on that relationship was her choice. She said that she did not want any relationships right now, not with me, not with anybody. She also said, if I wanted to believe her that I can go and see that she is staying at her other son's apartment.
She asked me if she could keep the truck because she needed it to go to work. I said to her that if she wanted the car she could take it (it is a piece of junk), that it was the last thing I would do to help her. She said, she understood my point of view, since she had made me believe that she was with OM, it was fair for OM to provide for her. She also said that she was grateful I had always respected and provided for her even before we broke up. She took the keys to the car and said she would be calling every once in a while and that if I needed to go check on her every night that it was ok.
