"Backslid a little this morning. Went in for a spooning session while waking up even though she didn't seem to mind it didn't feel like she was into it."
Spooning is not a good idea while you are trying to detach. I know that when I was going through my WAW issues, I wanted no intimate contact such as cuddling with my H. Make it one of your daily goals and mark it on your private calendar (if it will encourage you) that you got through that day without initiating spooning sessions.
The "on again, off again".....if I follow what you're saying, is certainly a stage that I remember well. It was rough. Although I was not discussing it with my H (I was trying to make up my mind as to what I was going to do.)
Look at it this way, at least for now......she's considering staying and working. She may go back & forth with it for quite a while, so I'd suggest you not get caught up in it. I use to change back & forth at least twice a day. I'd start off the day trying to talk myself into staying...and by evening I would be talking to OM.
I personally don't believe MC works very well (most MC) when there is a WAS in the M. She has to be willing to do the work and if at all possible....have an ounce of wanting the M to work. Without that.....well, your MC had better come up with something close to a miracle. Just don't depend fully upon the MC being the answer. Once she really decides she's ready to push up her sleeves and go to work....then C might benefit her. That's JMHO.
Please don't let that last statement pull you down to the ground, but I'm trying to give you a glimpse from the eyes of the WW. A WW is "rebelling" and therefore she'll resent any MC.
Let us know what you hear from the interview. Good luck.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
