While all my friends are married and have their own lives to live. I usual try to stay busy working out or riding my motorcycle and thinking about it. You should try 7 & 7 with your kids. One week with you one with her at the minimum. [/quote]
We are a family of pretty modest means, that's why we were hopeful we could mediate the D and come to reasonable solutions. She initially said she didn't want to fight over custody, that I'm a good dad. I said the same. Then MIL got involved and everything has changed.
Once when I was pushing her too much she said she would just take me to court and fight for full custody. This alarmed me on two fronts: the "weekend dad" scenario, and the financial implications it would have on me (I'm sure MIL will foot her bill). Things cooled a little and she mentioned that she would still like to mediate the D. I initially threw out the 7 + 7 idea. She said she thought it would be too disruptive to the routine to shuttle them back and forth every week.
The other part of this is that we moved where I work, she commutes about 50 miles to work. She countered with: I will stay here instead of moving 50 miles away. You could spend time with our D's on a daily basis and have them every other weekend. I thought that sounded reasonable compared to trying to figure out what works with two households 50 miles and several school districts apart.
