I am in a situation where my H is in MLC and is a WAS with OW. He has not lived at home for 3 months and is away on a business trip with OW. He says he will not give up OW. How can I start to work on these techniques with him so far away and little time talking to him? The first thing I am going to do is not argue on the phone. We have set our conversations to 6-20 mins and I have asked him to tell me 3 words that say how he feels or something to me. This gives perameters of the length and it can be straight to the point.
This week I am not going to call him and will try to miss some calls he makes. I am trying to be mysterious on our doings. We have 3 children, and I am not fostering the relationship btwn them. He doesn't really ask about them or to even talk to them.
Any other hints??? I need help. I really want my husband to "snap back into it" and come back to our family. But I know he alone is the only one who can choose that.
Another thing...I went out and got my own place for my children and I. He is welcome to come with us if he decides, he is always welcome. Do you think this is relationship suicide? Is this saying, "I have given up and don't even try to work on it?" . I don't want to upset him, however, I want to take a firm stand. I am not planning on telling him, he will be finding out we moved when he returns from his trip. I need something to be unpredictable. Do you guys think this is too much?
