Ces, I think you are on track with forgiving OM. After a relapse on my part last week, I came to the same realization. I have such anger and resentment towards him, it's difficult for me to hear W say anything about him without it causing a fight, and unfortunately, she still has work interactions with him.
I realized afterwards that it was holding me back, keeping me from being who I want to be, so that's my new goal. I've done good to see it, and to want to do it, but actually pulling the trigger is tough. I prayed about it, asked for strength, but I haven't been able to do it yet. I'm hoping a little more time is all I need....hopefully the same for you.
