Looking for something to keep me fighting

[mshaf]

Faith,

So sorry you are here. Keep your head up and read and post as much as you can here. There are a lot of great people on this board who will take time out of their day to help you out. Don't expect it to get any easier any time soon. Just keep your head up and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

FYI. I am no expert so seek a second opinion before implementing what I say.

I would think as far as the vacuum is concerned, the question to ask yourself is, how important is the vacuum to you?

Is it worth a possible argument and lingering anger on your W's part for days/weeks?

You said one of your goals is to be more pleasant, then stick with that.

You are still in the early stage of separation, so I would think avoiding conflict is the way to go. The sooner you WAW stops being mad and starts realizing how different her life is going to be the better.

Use this opportunity to be civil. BTW not asking you to be a pushover.

Good luck! Keep posting, keep asking for help, and read as many other people's sitch as possible to try to find things that you might apply.