Kml, those comments were made during the nuclear spewing and recur at random times when he thinks I am moving too far from him or I have caught him in a lie. Believe me if I thought he was well I would have torn his head off when he said those things, and he never did when he was well. But as it is, I tell him when he is finished spewing, "You know what I think when you say those things?" He always asks what. "So what? Do you think that hurts me? I could give a damn." Then on the rare (now) occasions that it resumes, I tell him, "So what I am done." And when that does not work and he gets violent, punching walls, swinging his arms wildly, and throwing things, I know just what will reduce him to tears everytime-"So what-I have a MAN, get over it, I don't want you, so just let the anger go." He always ends up in the bathroom crying to that one, and comes out to tell me we are now mortal enemies but within 15 minutes of saying that he switches to "come workout with me" or "here is some material for you research" or some other nice thing. Yes, I know not very kind on my part, but if I try to be nice or understanding he just continues to attack, threaten to leave and never talk to me again, sue me for custody, take the dogs or some other ridiculousness to which I always respond, "Go ahead if you think that is what you want to do." And he never does. I think it is just a power play to see if I will cry and beg him to stay. Not happening by the way. At least he quit punching himself in the face when I told him that looked childish to me and I really did not care if he did that as it did not scare or impress me.
