The change is for us not them...we are not perfect and we did our own part in messing up our marriage, I see so many things now that I had never seen.....I did many things that I should not have and now I see them, I was very controlling, my way or the highway and he always let me win....so now that I have seen those things I have changed in that area for ME....not for anybody else. A marriage should be 50/50 and it never was.....I changed for me for if and when he returns or for my next relationship..... You will be alright I promise you.....when you look inside yourself and dont like the parts of you that led to your marriage being destroyed those are the things you will change for you and your next chapter of your new life.....
