Divorced. My fault, and cant move forward

[mshaf]

He may not feel comfortable discussing possible GF with "mutual friends". This is mind reading though. Only your H knows why he dosen't discuss possible GF.

On a side note, it sounds like your friends are trying to help but that can backfire. You said earlier it already has. Why not thank friends for their concern and gently let them know it is a private matter between you and H?

As a LBS I am sure you can come up with enough questions on your own without outside influence.

To detach you are going to have to reduce these questions about what H is doing, thinking, feeling, etc. This may be harder to do w/ helpful friends who give updates on H.