Fish are friends. Not food.

[Meredith]

Bruce! I would love to offer advice but this shark is in the same sea. The same questions have been plaguing me for a while. I started to go into it on my thread but got sidetracked.

I want my husband to come home, but I don’t want him to come home to the same marriage. And thus far, I have been the only one changing. I have changed in the hopes of changing our marriage, but in order for it to really really change…so does H. Who wants to tell him? Volunteers???

BUT, I think that you may be overlooking some small steps that Shark Chow (erm, Mr.Wonderful) has made in the right direction. I haven’t seen the phrase “I don’t care’ come out of your fingers in quite some time. THAT is a step in the positive direction. I have seen some contact on his end…even if it is in the car. Are these changes enough? F no! But they are a start.

I think a big step, huge even, would be to get his little fish tail into counseling with you. Let her be the bad guy to bring up the big issues and maybe mention out of the room that he has stress management problems.

Change is contagious….he’ll get the message!