Perhaps... a theory, if you will... the transitions become a crises... perhaps in part... perhaps in LARGE part... that the person in transition begins to feel smothered by the LBS, when all the WAS wants... is space. ie. The LBS recognizes there's a problem and begins to focus on the WAS and the WAS is really just trying to work out their transition and the LBS is interfering... thus, the crises...

This hit home for me.

H told me he needed space. That's where this started for me. He wanted space. And I freaked out. I did smother him. I panicked, I grew more and more afraid and instead of giving him what he needed, I focused on my own fears and insecurities.

I did not listen, nor did I act out of love. I acted out of fear.


TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home