Someone once said as long as your thoughts are on your H(W) then they aren't on you. And if his(her) thoughts aren't on you then no one in the sitch is thinkging about you....anyway what got to me is that I am worth time and energy and that by detaching I took my focus and energy off him and put it on me and I found that I was giving so much of my time to thinking about him that I was empty inside and I didn't know until devote so much of my energy to myself. I hope that makes sense.
If you feel like texting or calling here post here first and give it 24 hours. I learned that if I stopped reacting to my emotion, I generally made a better decision later on!
Brit,
Compared to me, everyone on here is a Vet...LoL!
Your insight definitely makes sense, and since I have started to take some of that thought and focus off of my W and redirect it to my kids & myself, it has been tremendous. I am an avid runner and usually log around 25 miles/week. Since this has started, I have cut down to almost nothing & managed to lose 30LBS in the process, which is a lot considering I am 6' 3" and weighed about 190. For about the last 2 weeks however, the energy is coming back & I have been able to get back at it and rejuvinate that aura that I get when running.
