I believe "Going Dark" will have a detrimental effect on the positive signs of progress, so I would love some advice on how to better DETACH without going dark.
I am struggling with this too. I don't have much wisdom to offer, but you seem to be succeeding in your efforts. Things are better than they were, right? If so, you're on the right track. You know your W and situation better than anyone here. Keep up the good work.
Maybe this will help.. DETACHing is a MINDSET that you have. GOING DARK is a technique to achieve that mindset. Going dark may help you because you don't allow your W in -- therefore you don't experience the withdrawal afterward. It's something you do to help yourself.
Will it help the situation with your wife? Only as far as it helps YOU deal with it -- because you're part of the situation too.
M: 34 W: 33 T: 11y M: 4y Bomb: 6/29/2012 Same roof, different rooms: 8/5/2012
