btw, afterward, she doesn't remember saying ANY of that stuff.
The above, to me, is quite relevant to this.
First, do you BELIEVE she doesn't remember?
Second, did your W have a bad memory BEFORE the problems with your sitch?
It's my opinion that a WAS DOES remember and a MLCer truly may not.
Taking my W out of the MLC label, she may never have had a really good biological memory. What she DID do, was write everything down on a calender. I simply took that as a way for her to co-ordinate a busy schedule.
What I DO know is, right now, we will have conversations and she will email me within 24 hours to ask what was decided. Or she'll email me something and then email me again (again within a 24 hour period) to say she can not remember what she just emailed me hours before, so she's confirming what she said (which can be the same or different than what she wrote, before). And unless she's changed this behaviour... she's not likely to have deleted items from her "sent" folder, so could refer back.
Anyhow, confusion and forgetfulness seems to be some indicators used in considering MLC. Personally, I have no doubt whatsoever, my W's forgetfulness is genuine. Others may think different of my W or their own spouses.
I do also wonder Starsky, from what you write, the truth for you is, even if you believed your W was MLC or had some PD or medical condition... you would have proceeded exactly the same. Would that be about right?
And again, I don't think it's right or wrong. I definitely understand and without a doubt, what worked for your sitch, worked.
