You can have whatever you wish, Mac -- it's YOUR metaphor, lol.
I've also suggested to people that they pick some famous movie or TV star of the same gender, one that they see as strong, capable and can relate to. To picure "What would _______ do?" Some pick James Bond, or I picked Joe Friday ("Just the facts, ma'am"), lol. One woman I counseled I recommended she take Joyce Davenport, who was the character that played Capt. Frank Furillo's's girlfriend on the old Hill Street Blues tv show. Whatever works for you.
