Folks - that's the first time ever I've said no to the W!!!
Arrangement via L was - don't evict her.
Nothing else. I added food as it was the right thing to do. But to pay for her vices?
Nah. Not going to happen.
Boy - did that cause a flurry of posts! Thanks one and all for the input. Truly appreciated.
At my best friends now where I've received hugs and support on doing something they never expected from me.
Feeling a bit "wobbly".
Mac
Mac, try not to think of them as her "vices." We all have them, and you don't want to be focused on that. Try to make the disinction between "wants" and "needs." Someone wanting to leave a marriage is under no obligation to have the other person pay for their WANTS, unless and until a judge orders them to.
My position would be no different if this were her gardening club dues.
