Have to say I agree with everyone else here about what Mr. W said to mom and dad.....
It would seem to me to be a VERY good sign of positive forward movement.
I would go so far as to say this is a step that is even far bigger than a baby step...seems like a giant leap of faith if you ask me!
He is making a "public" committment and in fact it's even more than that...it's a committment to those who you both know and love and who he knows loves him back...and are most importantly aligned with YOU!
It's about as far from non-committal as you can get!
And it also implies that he realized the responsibility is on him to get off his butt and do something about working on this between you two.....
But let's not get ahead of ourselves yet. He has to, on some level, realize that this "information" would get back to you. So I for one would not mention that this has occured.
It is extremely positive and I hope you are encouraged by it. I hope it fuels good thoughts about the two of you and your future together. It seems he is definitely thinking along those lines, but maybe a bit afraid to outright say anything like that to YOU...but that's okay....
He may not come right out and say something that direct...maybe it isn't in his nature?
I hope this gives you some relief with uncertainty about where he may be headed....if you even had any to begin with.
It has been rather apparent to me for quite some time that you guys just needed some better tools for communication...this was not a case of either of you not loving each other or even wanting the marriage to end.
Wondering how the motor home "fiasco!" got taken care of ...and I hope your cousin is at least in the beginning stages of recovery!!
Howdy! Look at all these nice fishes and sharks swimming in my little coven today!
I was sitting here having a chat yesterday when Mr. W. called. Our convo was completely sports oriented. Note to me: When did this happen? I'm getting a little turned on...
"Bets, can you believe what happened to Peyton Manning? This is awful. I'll bet your sister and H are totally disappointed." (Note to self, he actually seems to care about others.)
Then we discussed what was happening with Carolina and the Eagles (thank God the Eagles lost... or my parents would have been crying for weeks, and I would have had to hear about it for a few centuries).
This is a topic that I enjoy. That was it--I guess I must have paused (probably from shock) and he asked to speak to D9. Then he hung up.
Meredith, I surmised the same thing that you elaborated so well in fish speak. Plus, I think he's missing me while watching all these sporting events. He did mention the day after last year's Superbowl that he had a miserable day...
You know, who else would be lucky enough to have a W who knows the channel lineup numbers for every sporting event?
I agree, he tends to move things along at a snail's pace (or the lesser moving coral). I would LOVE to ask him why on earth it is necessary to remain swimming, perfectly still. There are no sharks in his piece of the ocean (I'm taking D9's word for this--nobody enters the Bat Cave).
One day, I might get the answer to this unnerving question. He appears to be surfacing for air a little longer each time, so I will mark this as progress.
As long as I remain a completely nice, fish-sober shark, I think I might find out sometime soon. My horoscope indicates that something surprising but good is going to happen to me today...
I'll let you know if and when it does.
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming!
Bruce (I mean Betsey--or am I Dame Edna? Thrust, thrust, thrust those gladiolas!)
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Ok Bruce, here is the reminder Basic Marine Biology 101 class (advantages of having a H who majored in Marine Biology in college, even if it was donkey's years ago):
Sharks must swim... or they sink. They are not as bouyant as fish, which have a gas-filled bladder to aid them... All a poor shark has is its oily liver as an aid...
Shark swimming is more like flying than swimming.
Some sharks are fast-swimming predators that live in the open ocean, some are slow-swimming bottom dwellers that eat shell fish, and some are slow-swimming filter-feeders that sieve tiny animals and plants to eat.
Unlike fish, sharks cannot stop suddenly or swim backwards. A shark's pectoral fins cannot bend upwards like a fish, limiting its swimming ability to forward motion. If a shark needs to move backwards, it uses gravity to fall, not swim backwards. Sharks must swerve to the side in order not to hit something - they cannot simply stop.
Some sharks (like the great white shark -that is you, Bruce) swim by propelling itself through the water using its tail. The fins are only used for balance. Other sharks, like the whale shark, move their bodies from side to side to propel themselves through the water.
And always remember, regardless of speed, a shark must keep swimming or it will sink.
Clear now on why you must keep swimming? Any lingering questions?
I thought so
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Ok, marine biologists...what about the hammerhead?
Bets, let's picture Mr. W as Marlin at the beginning of the movie. That fish wasn't going anywhere near the open water and he didn't care what anyone said. When he finally ventured forth he was pretty nervous, and if it hadn't been for pursuing Nemo he'd have turned back many times. I'm not saying to throw either daughter into a fish tank and then tell Mr. W to get his tail moving...but I think that these guppies are going to have to have to take it very slow when moving into open water. After all...they have been biten by sharks before and they just aren't ready to trust that we won't attack them again.
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
