However, just for you Ro and Bklyn, I'll take the advice to heart and look for real things I do respect about H and convey that and report back.
We may be at an impasse though. My H seems to really need to feel needed - in ways that I don't really need him, and I really need an emotional connection - which H refuses to or is incapable of providing. I might win him back and not want what I got. I'd rather if he comes back it's because he finally feels the lack of emotional connection and decides he wants to learn how to build it.
I can totally relate to the bolded part. It's been like that our whole relationship. I think I didn't need him in ways he wanted to feel needed, but I also didn't let him feel needed in the ways I did need him. (Did that make any sense? LOL)
I don't want you to try to become someone you're not. Lord knows there's too much of that going on in this world as it is. LOL I was just agreeing that for me, letting my guard down (even if just a little), is one of the things that was missing in my M.
