Maybe the litmus test for you is whether or not you'd feel resentment afterwards for acting a certain way? Not sure, but no sense becoming someone you're not to get someone you don't need....but you figured that out already...
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms