can Turtles still stand?

[zig]

sg!! you stopped by

i like the red i chose - it was the brightest - at least it looked like that on my monitor!!

oh cripes - is it like a total brown on everyone else's???

receiving hugs!

thanks
zig

[zig]

thanks vera - how are you , strong girl?

hope you had a great weekend

i have a bit of catching up to do

zig

[vera be fierce]

Yeah you do

[needgrace]

Oh zig, you are putting so much light into the universe and it's getting reflected back to you and it is so uplifting to read

YES! YES! YES! So very true!!

[zig]

yikes , did i miss some action?

on my way...

[zig]

Hi KD

so i've spent hours on the board today and just when i was sort of done mentally, i remembered that i hadn't sat down to do my homework. shite!!

so i'm going to try now.

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First --
Set your GOAL.

I will, through what I am learning with DB techniques, be able to show H that marriage with me will be different and much better than it was before.

What do you want to achieve:

I want H and I to successfully reconcile and move towards a healthy relationship where we and s are thriving as individuals and as a family

What will your spouse be doing,

He will be working on himself and becoming more confident and happy within himself. He will forgive himself and me, and let the past stay in the past. He will be very committed to working on building our relationship as much as I am working on it and he will do it because he wants to and it's important for him, not because he has to. He will learn to trust himself, and to trust me. He will stop expecting me to act like the old zig and will understand and accept that my changes are really sticking. He will understand that in order for our relationship to truly thrive he will need to commit to developing his own growth

what will the two of you be doing?
well.. lots of you know what
we will be spending time together alone, we will be communicating honestly and openly with each other. we will accept the other as they truly are, we will look for solutions instead of focusing on the problems, we will "learn" each other on a deeper level, we will commit to each other and to the continual development of our relationship, not letting it stagnate, and we will both understand that this is a life-long thing to keep working on and developing our relationship. we will support and respect each others interests and activities. we will allow ourselves to reach deeper levels of intimacy as we trust each other more



okay - so did i cover all the homework? i wasn't sure if i was supposed to respond to the rest of the post or not.

thanks KD -and a reminder that you offered to talk about what "recovery" means after i did my homework!!

hope you had a great weekend

zig

[~ kd ~]

okay - so did i cover all the homework? i wasn't sure if i was supposed to respond to the rest of the post or not.

thanks KD -and a reminder that you offered to talk about what "recovery" means after i did my homework!!

hope you had a great weekend

zig

weekend was good. Picked up D9 on friday and been busy with her, so not very active here right now and probably until Saturday when I take D9 back to W's.

I'll have to review your "homework" to see if it's completed... And also, please remind me about recovery if I don't get to it in a couple days.

[ces67]

Hey Zig, catching up from some recent travels. Glad you're doing well (((zig)))

[~ kd ~]

Great job finding your legs around here. You are going to make making a mighty fine "vet" around here...

[zig]

i'm hardly at that level, KD - but like i told sg - i'm going with "act as if"...

gotta work on curbing my "impulsive" side a bit here though

{{{ }}}
zig