very happy to read this! Your thinking really has shifted are you able to see that as clearly as I can? I hope so. Take a minute and give yourself a mental pat on the back wink

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I'm so glad he went on this hike with this group of friends. It's what the old H used to do. Before I would've been upset because he wouldn't see the kids all day but now, I think it's important he takes these outings.
regardless of the outcome of you R this is such a great thing to do! Before I was slightly bitter "how come h is NOW doing all these I wanted him to do before?" and then I shifted to being happy that he has an experience. (Now I don't really think about his doings but that's a different story) but to shift from having an opinion of when or how or what they are doing to being happy for them is a big growth. Good for you!