Wow Ad, H seems like a tough man. What do you think is behind all these behaviors? He really seems to have a controlling drive, need to be right, and need to be acknowledged as "right". I realize you're venting and he isn't *always* like that, but those are a few examples in a short span of time. It seems like if he has an opportunity to *prove* that you did something less than he would have done, or to a lower standard, he rubs your nose in it until he feels you've given in.
I think *part* of that is a man thing, but it seems very extreme. My W frequently crashes our cars. She drives too fast and doesn't pay attention. Last week she borrowed FiL's car and tore the front bumper off it by running over some boulders while she was turning around. I was in the car with her yesterday and she was backing up by looking in the rearview mirror instead of turning around. I said "You're backing up without looking! Please turn around and look out the back window when you back up!" She said "I'm looking, I know what I'm doing" and then made some snippy comment like "Yeah, I'm just going backwards and paying no attention". I felt I was a bit over the line just criticizing her driving, but if I'm a 4 on the complaining man scale, your H is a 9 -- Yikes!
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
