After that breakup but ongoing friendship. I dated randomly for a few months, nothing very wild. It would have SEEMED wild to my exH, and probably set him off. I see both sides of the stories I see here.
Next 'relationship' lasted 4 years. Turned out to be off and on and not really a relationship. I'm going to say he was a player but gave me a first class mirror to myself. At the end I ended up on the board shortly after being suicidal. I read a LOT of relationship books. I even called for therapy from another famous author. Had an hour session, her only goal was for more sessions.
I read Divorce Busting in a bookstore. (After my divorce I immediately started back to school to get my degree--good choice.) I hopped on this site. My first poster: Australian/Mick. Other great folks: phoenix and inmyplace. KentS. gbon. Jamesjohn. Tia. And mostly: Michele herself.
Then I went to a Keeping Love Alive seminar live with Michele. I attended with another DBer.
All of this saved my life, helped me turn my situation around, even got the 'guy' back. But realized, this wasn't a relationship, it was.... a lot of other things that you might be experiencing now or will shortly.
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sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
