I was dyin"to get back here...Gabe nearly drove me over the edge last night!! He had to do some kind of forms on line.......
He seems to have gotten a little resolution to his job dilema, but is depressed a bit too, he wants some certainty that he made the right decision. I don't seem to be able to give that to him. He was also looking for an apartment on line very late last night, I had finally fallen asleep and was headed to bed but he was asking all kinds of questions about rents deposits, utilities, etc....
(((((((Betsey!)))))))) I think your realization about Mr. W was FANTASTIC!
Looking back over your posts I see the same pattern.
He initiates calls from his cell phone that are always more positive, upbeat and focused.
He gives "better" responses to you when he is relaxed and driving.....without work distractions....or friends around.
Looks like you have become aware of a very valuable tool!!!
But I hope what you have become even more aware of is....He likes you!!!
My god!!!!! He LOVES YOU!!!!!
He wants to have positive interaction with you!!! He is finding ways to get it AND ways to give you more undivided attention.!!
Yes, my dear sourpuss friend
I hope this answers your quote: WHAT"S THIS ALL ABOUT???
Also he clearly wants more of YOUR individed attention........
"Do you have your cousin in the car with you??"
Not only does he think about you but he has found a way to show you!!!!
He has been working with you more than I think we give him credit for.
Think back over all the holiday co-ordination, my gosh you guys even on a daily basis, have always seemed to have a lot of coordinating with D6 and 9 going on. It has made you into good co-parents, good co-"workers" good co-partners!!!
Good communicators.....
I think of how much has had to have been handled, communictaed clearly and concisely to avoid the usual pitfalls of plain old parenting and with your sitch it's even more comlicated!! And you guys practically have it down to A SCIENCE!!!!!!
I have not once heard from you that you guys majorly messed up on schedules for either D....never dropped the ball in terms of your time committments to schools, after school activities, physical therapy sessions, doctor's visits, dental visits, social committments for both D's!!! my goodness the list goes on and on......You two are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO far ahead of the average parents!!!
Take if from someone who knows!!!
I have taken on four kids schedules and I know first hand the sheer ENERGY it takes to keep everyone going in the right direction, at the right time, with the right equipment and a good attitude!!
What you are accomplishing is almost nothing short of miraculous...and you've done it TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!
I just laughed my A*** off about the bowling!!
So he can grow a little tooo eh?
Good for him....maybe he is getting his priorities a little clearer....and you were able to be soo sweet about it No nasty comments.....
let's find a way for you to give him a little positive reinforcement on that if you can....Honestly, I can't think how....what about: "It's great Gary was able to help you out and find you a sub." Let's him know that depending on his friend to do something for himslef...not Mr. W having to do it is great. Actually your reaction probably spoke volumes....
You are right not to let the "day togther" comment get to you....maybe they have a major clean up project in store? The main thing is he is letting you know his schedule of activity and who he is doing things with.....in fact I wouldn't be surprised if he really had NOTHING planned he just wants you to think he is busy...and doesn't want you to think it's with a woman!!
I think you should both spend time together in the car!!
Or the motor home......
Wait strike that....
The motor home would need to be sterilized first!!
So he's already setting up the project of getting rid of it WITH YOU haahahaha!!!!!
Boy is that ever a golden opportunity for jokes if I heard one......
Ever hear Chris Farley's, " In a VAN!!! down by the RIVER" guy????
