14 Months Secret Separation: talking mediation

[BklynMom]

I think you should try the swooning method I suggest and see if he likes it. Obviously you dont need to go with the advice he gives you but maybe ask him to explain why 70 is crazy.

You can not rely on his advice but you can ask him for it and then measure it against what the advisor suggests.

Doing this will not make him wake up tomorrow and say I dont want a D but over time it will make him feel like you respect him as a man. I really think men like to feel like they are in control and being in charge of the money is one way they feel empowered.

I told my 3 yr old in front of my H "Daddy has to work hard to pay for your birthday party." (even though we both work) I went on about how expensive the party is & that Daddy is paying - He loved it. Hasnt changed the fact that we are moving forward with the D but I could tell he liked it.