SFO, I suspect we are attracted to certain types. I know for me I was very conscious of that when I started dating again. One woman was very similar in many ways although taller.
One thing that really stuck out for me was that I had to answer the question of "did I pick wrong" when I got married. The answer is no, I did not. My ex wasn't like she is now. She is completely opposite in many ways and seems to be trying to get back to the way she was last I heard.
So for me, I date people I like. I like a lot of people and personality types so I don't have a particular "type" per se. i.e. the first two I dated were single moms that were tall, athletic and blonde. The next was a single mom that was dark haired and had a great sense of humor (she was a bit nuts though). The girl I'm dating now (and have been for a while) is dark skinned and dark hair. My ex is fair skinned and blonde. I do prefer smartish people that can handle a conversation and aren't self-centered (out of control) but otherwise, my type is simply female. Age isn't much of a barrier either. I've dated half my age and those 10 years older since my ex. I like people
Sleeper, I'm glad you've found a great person to spend your life with. I'm sure once you're done with the immediate junk and things settle down, it'll be great!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
