Kimmerz put it very succinctly. I too feel the anger from time to time. At this point, the anger comes for a very brief period of time and then it's gone. I smile so much people have asked if there is something wrong with me or if I'm on medication
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Personally I'd rather have my life about the ones I love, raise my children to the best of my ability and live an authentic life with integrity and truth, compared to riding inmature high's of blowing money and fornicating with new people.
That's worth reading again.
Grieving takes a while. Let it. Don't shortcut it and have to deal with it later. Deal with it now and get it done.
Sometimes, when I think I'm not making progress, I take a breath and look at things differently. Kind of like a stock market graph. I find there are ups and downs, but that the trend is upward overall. For me, grieving has been kind of like that. Coupled with trying to parent, work, live a life, etc., it's been difficult to do all of that at once. Give yourself time and let go of the expectations while you accept and deal.
It gets much much better as you will see sooner than you think.
Oh, and when the anger comes up, try to challenge it and think about why you are feeling that way. Sometimes, it is nothing to do with ex but you take it out on them like a punching bag. When you challenge the reason you are angry, you often find it diminishes more quickly. Might work for you too.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
